By Katy Ray
Ah, you knew it was coming: Valentine’s Day. The day where plush stuffed animals peer at us with judgmental, beady eyes, forcing us to look internally and question our life decisions as we fill our shopping carts with enough food to feed one person for a week and grab a bottle of wine to help reassure ourselves that we are not alone, we are not undesirable, and we are not failing at life. No matter what your relationship status has been for the past year or so, planning and preparing for Valentine’s Day as a single person can be an emotional roller coaster. But it doesn’t have to be.
Not enough people realize that there’s nothing wrong with being alone. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being single and happy. We have long since been conditioned to internalize the idea that if no one wants to play with us, we must be ugly, worthless, or defective—but this is simply not true. You are beautiful, you are worthy, and you are a shooting star. It’s time to shake off that single sadness and embrace your relationship status. It’s time to put the I in Valentine’s Day.
If you’re single, the theme of today is #treatyoself. After all, Americans are spending a collective six billion dollars a year on the holiday named after a man who was sentenced to death for performing secret marriages after Claudius the Second banned marriage (Claudius thought that single men made better soldiers), so you can certainly decide to splurge on that new designer top or those new fresh kicks you’ve been eying. And don’t forget to celebrate the fact that you’re not living in the middle ages. Medieval times is just a restaurant chain.
What’s something you’ve always wanted to do for yourself? Make a list and tackle it over the next month. Here’s one to get you started:
But even if after all this, you still feel really down, just remember: there’s a pretty big universe out there. With seven billion people populating over 204 countries—and with more and more of them coming out of the closet every day—there’s sure to be someone out there waiting for you. Start with our app, and see where the universe takes you.